Are you struggling with change in your life? Is it a positive change or a negative one? Both of these can be challenging and hard to navigate though to get to the calm waters. Some folks seem to breeze though while others of us struggle against it. Let’s face it – change is not easy no matter what it is – we get used to things being a certain way and BAM – its all changed and different and we have to learn new skills and lessons to survive.
First things first – Breathe and the change flow over and through you. This realization may take a few days to adjust to. The key here is not to get overwhelmed but just experience it and acknowledge it.
As you get more comfortable with the change, take note of your feelings and experience them – good or bad. Let it all out. Many times fear creeps in and paralyzes us – don’t let that happen – just know it is there and ask the question what am I being fearful about?
Ask yourself plenty of questions as to this change and exactly how it will impact your life – become an impartial observer. This gives you distance and perspective which can be very useful in these situations.
Call a friend to help talk through the change and the impact. Sharing is a great way to get the support you need to help you get through.
Make a plan how to handle the details once you gain some clarity to the situation.
Relax and Breathe again – all will be well
Last but not least if possible prepare for the unexpected and have a plan A and B and possibly C.
I recently moved about 65 miles – I planned and executed like a champion and was exactly on schedule for all the milestones. What I DID NOT PLAN FOR was what was going to happen once I got moved. Garage doors didn’t work, plumbing did not work, house was not cleaned correctly etc…..I was already exhausted and then THIS? Needless to say I was angry and tired and shocked that this would take place. It took a couple of weeks to get things lined out and begin the unpacking process. It never occurred to me that these issues would come up – but acknowledged them and worked though them.
While the move was a positive change – all the stuff after the move was totally annoying and negative until it got resolved.
Let’s fast forward to now – I recently discovered via Facebook a dear friend passed away – to say it was shocking was an understatement as the family did not contact any friends to share this news with. It really hit me hard and made me stop and think about my life and my purpose. This was a negative change and it was and is hard as hell. We don’t like losing loved ones and it is especially difficult when it happens out of the blue. I have been suffering these last two weeks with this sense of loss and pondering the meaning of our lives on this planet. Tough things to ponder and work through.
As I read through this post I began to regain my balance and sense of peace. Yes, I got overwhelmed and went to a less positive space. So I will follow my advice and start to breathe again one day at a time.
What changes can I help you with? I am here to help and listen.