With families being spread out further and further these days it is a challenge to stay close and connected. Despite all of the technology that surrounds us with FaceTime, Facebook, Instant Messaging, etc., we are still lack connections. Sometimes our technology is a great way to avoid connecting with others.
As I get older and talk to others, there are so many folks out there whose families are too busy for them. Each time they reach out to plan a visit they are met with the answer “ Now is not a good time – we are too busy”.
With the holidays approaching, this situation gets magnified 1000% and the pain and loneliness creeps in despite our best efforts of playing it off and pretending the rejection does not hurt.
The older we get the circle of friends and sometimes family gets smaller each year. So the problem becomes even bigger in our lives. Being ignored or rejected is never a pleasant experience and let’s be real it HURTS!
There is no easy, one solution fits all to this situation. Each of us has to come to terms with it in our own way. Sometime we just shut down and ignore it, or soothe our pain in other ways. Having a direct conversation does not always help either because they flat out tell you they don’t want you in their lives.
Each of us has to come to terms with this situation and deal with it the best way we can. This is when reaching out to friends and others can be a lifesaver for you. Sometimes when we reach out to someone who is not directly involved we receive an independent perspective. While we may not always agree with that perspective, it gives us food for thought.
This is a great opportunity to reach out to a life coach to help you navigate through these murky waters. It is hard to reach out but when you are met with an open mind and open heart miracles can take place. They say the first step is the hardest….be brave and reach out when you are ready and you will forever be grateful for that first step.