Before you speak – let your words pass through three gates:
IS IT TRUE?
IS IT NECESSARY?
IS IT KIND?
Recently I witnessed how devastating spoken words can be when they are not put through the above three gates. Such devastation and pain are beyond description. Relationships were blown apart and hearts were shredded.
The tragic part was it was all so unnecessary and could have been avoided if some thought and consideration and respect were used. Unfortunately, in today’s society people speak their minds and feelings without using any filters and the pain and suffrage is horrendous.
I myself have encountered this type of event and there are parts of my heart that will never recover. We need to become more aware of our words and how they affect others and always put them through those three gates.
Respect is such a powerful word and the meaning can be different to each one of us. It is a simple concept that has been long forgotten. People just say what they feel at the present moment and forget that those words can be seared into the other persons heart forever. You can never take back those words once they leave your mouth.
Treat others the way you would like to be treated. Basic and simple. Respect is earned and by keeping your words filtered you earn those feelings rather than speaking them and causing pain forever.
During these upcoming holidays when tensions can run high and a few too many drinks may be consumed, I ask that you think before you speak and show respect to others, despite the fact that you may think they are not worthy of it.
Those three gates can save lives and hearts.